One of the hottest things, but something I’ve struggled with in the past, is when he’s told me to play with myself so he can watch. In our living room, in front of the fire, it’s warm enough for me to strip off and let him sit across from me. My legs open. Often he’ll grab a toy and tell me to use it. I like large, firm/hard dildos. My most recent acquisition is this beautiful large sparkly turquoise Adam from Godemiche. It has a satisfying stretch, and it’s effective if he wants to see me make a mess. Luckily my sofas are leather and I can clean them easily. Unfortunately the carpet not so much. So if that’s the plan we grab our waterproof sheet from Sheets of San Francisco.
It’s amazing he can sit and watch for quite some time before join in. The rewards from learning to love showing him while I play, definitely outweigh the initial embarrassment of spreading my legs for him.